How To Enjoy Your First Date

Too many times new couples overthink their first date. They play various scenarios in their heads about what could potentially happen and work themselves into a frenzy before they have actually gotten together. The main idea of getting to know the other person takes a back seat to the worry about whether or not they are making a good impression -  are they touching their face too much, talking too much, not talking enough, and on and on.

The first date should be a time of getting to know the other person and listening and responding to what they are saying. How can you listen to the other person when you are going over what you are going to say and what you are or are not doing while he or she is talking? If you think about it, you are actually spending your time focused on yourself and forgetting that the main focus should be on the other person. You spend all day with yourself; give yourself a break and spend time with someone else.

So, you need to get out of your head and focus on the present moment. What is he saying that you can relate to? What is she doing that you would like to know more about? 

Another good idea is to remember that this is his first date too, and he is most likely just as nervous as you. Did he forget to open the door for you? Or not pull your chair out? 

Does she just seem to be talking about herself and not asking you questions? When you see these instances from the perspective that the other person is nervous too, it is easy to let go and see where the rest of the night might lead.
 

If you are nervous about bad breath, keep some mints in your purse or pocket. It would be good to have some Kleenex or a handkerchief with you as well. You do not need to bring the whole medicine cabinet, but having a few things with you or close to you will help to put you more at ease.

The main point to all of this is to spend time with your date having fun and enjoying his or her company. Life happens and sometimes things do not go as planned. 

If you keep an open mind (and heart) you can roll with whatever occurs. This may be the first date of many.

Relax and enjoy it!

TO THE APPLE OF MY EYES

When I first saw you, I was afraid to meet you;
when I first met you, I was afraid to kiss you;
when i first kissed you, I was afraid to love you; but now that I love you I'm afraid to loose you.

 

You are my passion, my life, my love. Without you I would have no reason to live. All the stars in the universe could not replace what we have together. I thank you for the love we have and your gentleness. Never forget me, as I will never forget you.

You are the sun in my day, the wind in my sky, the waves in my ocean, and the beat in my heart. All my dreams came true the day that I met you. I Love You! You are the sunshine of my life! Thanks for brightening my world with the warmth of your Love... You are the fire that burns the passion within my soul. I love You with all my heart... I want to be your arms, I want to feel your touch, I want your lips on mine, I need you very much.

When I looked into your eyes I didn't see just you, I saw my today, my tomorrow, and my future for the rest of my life...I love you!!!
You can fall from a mountain, you can fall from a tree, but the best way to fall is in love with me.

7 Ways of Boosting Your Metabolism

Many of us have a sluggish metabolism. This can make it really difficult to lose weight and extremely easy to gain weight. 

A slow metabolism can also make you tire out easily so you don’t get to enjoy all that life has to offer. However, there is good news. You can easily boost your metabolism naturally if you know how. Below, you will find 7 ways to increase your metabolism:

1. Early Morning Intense Exercise – A short burst of intense exercise when you first get up can do wonders for your metabolism. Dr. Oz has advocated for this method of speeding up the metabolism. The best part is you only have to do about five minutes of intense exercise to reap the benefit all day. The exercise you do can be really simple. Examples would include running in place, jumping jacks, and lunges. Of course, if you have a stair master or a jogging machine, that would work too. Just get your heart rate up for five minutes and cool down for two minutes.

2. Eat More Spicy Foods – Hot spices like curry, cayenne pepper, black pepper, cumin, and turmeric all help the body speed up your metabolism. There are other “hot” spices that you may not think of as hot but they react in the body in this way. They include cinnamon, cardamon, ginger, and nutmeg. Try adding these tasty spices to your soups, stir-fries, casseroles, and other dishes. Curry goes great in some type of salads like quinoa salads. Some people love the taste of cinnamon in their coffee. Just add it to the grounds before you brew it.

3. Drink Lots of Water – Water is magical in this way. Drink a lot of water and your metabolism will magically increase because the metabolic process needs water to fuel it. It’s even better if you make sure you are drinking alkaline water.

4.Keep Your Thyroid Healthy – To work efficiently, the thyroid needs selenium, zinc, copper, and iodine. However, the American diet is notoriously low in these important minerals. To get more of these minerals, eat more seafood and nuts.

5. Never Skip Breakfast – Unfortunately, in this fast paced world we live in, many of us have a tendency to skip breakfast or grab something nutrient poor on the way out the door. This is one of the worst things you can do for your metabolism. Always eat a healthy breakfast. This should include a healthy protein like eggs from pasture raised chickens and fruit bursting with antioxidants like blueberries or strawberries.

6. Don’t Eat As Much Late In the Day – Unfortunately, most of us eat more at dinner than we do at breakfast. We also tend to snack at night before bedtime. This is exactly the opposite of what you want to do to speed up your metabolism. Try to eat more earlier in the day and less at dinner. Plus, try not to eat for at least three hours before bedtime.

7. Build More Muscle Mass – Weight training isn’t just for body builders. Building muscle mass should be part of all fitness programs. Even if you can’t join a gym or buy fancy equipment, you can build muscle mass. A couple of cans of food or water bottles filled with water can serve as weights for your arms and you can use those big rubber bands (cheap) or your own body weight to provide resistance to your legs to build more muscle mass.