Today I come with a different style. I just want to share with us the need to preserve your worth & integrity in any form of relationship, be it courtship, marriage, business, family and so on. Let's go!
Integrity and you
The word, integrity, is an almost exact transliteration of the Latin word, integritas, which means “undiminished condition, completeness, soundness, blamelessness.”
Why should
this high level of integrity matter in a relationship? Just as you want to trust others
in your life, you must prove yourself trustworthy if they are to put
trust in you. Having integrity is the foundation for building a circle of trust in a relationship.
You
know you cannot trust everyone around you, but there is the need to build a level of trust in your relationship. That’s just the way life is. Some
people were not raised well. Others are driven by sick minds. Still
others are driven by career goals, regardless of whom they hurt along
the way.
Nevertheless,
when you keep your integrity intact, you will find at least two effects
on others.
(1) Those who have integrity will be drawn to you.
(2)
Those who do not have it either will seek to learn from you, or will
avoid you.
An old proverb says, “A cord of three strands is not easily
broken.” You need alliances with people of integrity, to make a circle
of trust to fend off the sharks in the water. Integrity has this
benefits on your relationship:
Integrity refines your relationship
Integrity is giving 100% when others are not doing so. When partners in a relationship give their best regardless of what he or she will gain, the tie/bond gets stronger. The success or failure of any relationship is a direct extension of the characters of those involved. You should be driven for excellence, on principle.
Honesty becomes your watchword
Integrity–wholeness
in seeing–requires ethical lenses clear and well-ground through moral
decision-making on a daily basis. You cannot act otherwise when you are
honest.
One of the great facts about integrity
is that, over time, it is revealed clearly to others. Your personality
may be timid. But your moral choices add up day after day. Your
honest inner core must be revealed because you operate from within, not
superficial devices to “spin” who you are.
Seeing with honesty means you have the power to cultivate integrity.
Integrity makes you naturally happy
Aristotle’s
statement is true. Moral excellence, moral integrity, comes through
repetition. One of the reasons so many people are unhappy is they are
seeking meaning through the approval of others, or seeking life goals
that cannot be met, or goals that cannot give deep inner satisfaction.
Do you
have a taste for sweets or chocolate? Did you ever taste a vegetable,
filled with vitamins, you did not like? These analogies are useful for
our thinking on the value of integrity and its relationship to
happiness. Diabetes and fat plague our population. Why? People like
sweets. They do not like to sweat. So feeding themselves on what they
like, make themselves unhealthy, and become unhappy with the results.
How many
people drink too much, take pills to sleep, go to therapists, and more,
because they do not like the persons they are? If you have become
someone you do not really like, a person you fear to see truly in the
mirror, then get off your “sugar high” of moral shortcuts. Start, one
decision at a time, to do the right thing for the right reason. Perhaps
you need to make the risks small, so you will do this. But the
long-term effects of moral habit eventually make you morally stronger.
You begin to have a strong backbone once again in your relationship.
Integrity
does not come cheap. It requires daily attention. It begins with baby
steps of right moral choice. But a few decisions practiced soon begin to
build our moral fiber. And with that comes the inner peace and
satisfaction of knowing we are good people in fact, not belief or representation.
One
of the greatest benefits of integrity is happiness when you are with
those you love. Whether you have young or grown children, when you
speak from integrity:
- They know you have it
- They listen with respect
- They want to model what they see in you
Life is
short enough. Sometimes it can be shorter than we think or expect. By
cultivating your personal moral integrity, disability and death never
will catch you off-guard. Your flight path will be established and
clear. Your loved ones will not have to mince or make up words about who you were, because your character and integrity will live after you.
That
knowledge will be a source of happiness for you, something more precious
than gold. To have the respect of those who know us best is 24K gold happiness. We surely want to have the respect of our coworkers, friends, family members, subordinates, and superiors alike. Yet our inner circles of family and friends are the people who will remember us when life is over
REMEMBER THIS: GOOD NAME IS BETTER THAN SILVER OR GOLD.
Thanks as you walk in integrity today.
One Love
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